In case you haven’t heard of Meghan Markle, she is an American who married the Prince of England, HRH Prince Henry (Harry) Duke of Sussex. She became the Duchess of Sussex. Meghan is a mixed race woman of color who is very accomplished in her own right. Her father is white and her mother is black.
She grew up in a separated home where both parents were hands-on in raising her. She went to the best schools and went on to graduate from a University with a major in political science and a minor in theatre. She pursued an acting career that finally paid off by the time she hit her thirties. She was living in Toronto where her hit show “Suits” was filmed. She got married to her longtime boyfriend after seven years of dating. It lasted 2 years because of the geographical distance between them; and they got a divorce.
During her growing up years she was shaped to be aware that she was blessed to have a place to stay and food to eat. Her mother took her to soup kitchens and they helped to feed the hungry. While she was working on the set of “Suits,” she would make arrangements to have leftover food brought in for the actors, taken to a soup kitchen or homeless shelter so it would not go to waste. She was born to be a royal.
She met Harry through a blind date set up by a friend to both of them. They got married and the rest is still to be written.
The one thing that is playing out is the race card and the mistreatment she has endured by the British press. They made up lie after lie against her for the sole purpose of destroying her character and Harry’s if they had to. The monarchy only has one rising star and that was the heir, Prince William, who will one day be King. So, her relationship with Prince Harry was doomed. She had no right coming into the royal family and becoming so popular. They were not going to have that. They hounded her and nitpicked everything she said and did. It took the famous interview with Oprah to shed light on their side of the story. This after four years of constant tabloid lies and made-up fabrications.
It was explosive!
But the thing that bothers me more than anything is how they treated Meghan. She was bi-racial, beautiful, smart, amazing and she loved charity work. That is what attracted Harry to her especially since he was getting ready to take his place on the world stage. The timing could not have been more perfect.
He said, “The stars were aligned when we met…”
Looking at Meghan took me back to an incident that happened in my life when I was working for a temp agency. My assignment was Hiram Walker, based in Canada. They moved some of their staff to the United States and I got a job there through Kelly Services. It was in the early nineties during a time after I was laid off from my newspaper gig after thirteen years of service. Affirmative Action was over and now, more people of color were either losing their jobs or working like me through an agency. I saw nothing but young people being hired at these temp agencies because corporations or businesses were not hiring them outright. These temp agencies provided the benefits that the companies used to be responsible for. That was an eye-opener for me.
As I was saying, I started working at Hiram Walker and a whole slew of black folks were hired at the same time. It looked like they were looking specifically for blacks to fill numerous new positions. I was an assistant to one of the managers and my work area was set out in a staff pool. I encountered this beautiful, bi-racial (black) young woman who came over to assist me in getting my computer to perform correctly. She showed me what the problem was and fixed it. I was so grateful for her help and was struck with how polite and warm she was. Unfortunately, I didn’t remember her name. I didn’t get the chance to really get to know her.
But I started to notice that she was not being treated well by the management. It got so bad that one day she was just gone. They had not even allowed her back in to get her belongings. The temp agency had to retrieve her things. To this day I don’t know what happened, and nobody was talking, but she clearly was under some kind of stress which I was able to observe at times. I never understood it.
I do believe that the good white folks there were behind it. After all, they ran the company. I never understood how she could be treated so poorly without having done anything that would warrant such abuse. I never was able to reconcile what happened to her but I never forgot it.
Seeing Meghan Markle so mistreated reminded me of that person and over the years I wondered where she was and if she was okay. I wished I had gotten an opportunity to really get to know her.
My point of all this is the phenomenon of Meghan and people like her. Mixed race, beautiful, poised, smart, amazing and above all kind. The young woman I knew was all of these traits. What did they have in common? The black in their blood. I saw movies of mixed race women who couldn’t be accepted in the white world. They had to live a lie to survive because of the mistreatment they got. Is it the white man’s guilt of what he did to the black race? The raping of black women produced this mixed blood and maybe they couldn’t stand it. Or they couldn’t own it. They wanted to be a pure race. They certainly were not going to claim this new breed. So, create a climate of blame and victimization to soothe their guilty conscience.
Maybe what I am saying is too raw for anyone to accept. But I had to admit, there was something wrong with the picture that I saw at Hiram Walker. Meghan Markle’s picture is equally troubling. They will say, that the monarchy has to be protected and that is the excuse they will use. But we (the public) know better. We are on the outside looking in with clear eyes. Beauty and grace are usually to be praised. In Meghan’s case, it wasn’t. They preferred the awkwardness of Kate Middleton and Prince William to the poise and grace Meghan and Harry represented. Maybe they had no choice. Maybe they did.
In the name of Her Majesty the Queen.