Tuesday, JANUARY 10, 2023 @ 1:10 PM ET
DAY 9
What Do I Do Today?
I’ve been pondering what to do. Now that the funeral plans are in place, do I go over and sit with the family? Open the house by staying there and letting folks in? This used to be done when we all belonged to the same church and community, and they rallied around the family.
Food was brought and people stopped over. When my mother passed, Gwen and another friend came over. A neighbor came and my sister-in-law. Lank and I left the house to them while we took care of finalizing the funeral arrangements. It was a load off our shoulders knowing someone was there.
When I lost my brother to the war, the church family came over with food and camaraderie. They took care of us. I will never forget it.
I’m going to call Victor but first I must get some help if I intend to bring food over. The viewing is Friday and funeral mass will be held on Saturday.
I have to go for now so I can plan out the rest of the day.
Shirley Slaughter
Shirley Harris-Slaughter 
Hi Shirley, anything that you do, anything at all, will undoubtedly be appreciated. Just follow your heart, it will show you the way. : )
Best wishes,
Donna M Atwood
D M Atwood
https://www.dmatwood.com
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It’s sweet of you to take care of Victor and the funeral plans. Gwen was lucky to have you as her friend.
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Whatever you do will be the right thing, Shirley. Gwen would be happy to know you’re looking out for Victor. You can’t go wrong by showing you care. Praying for you. Blessings!
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Hello Shirley,
The people in the south still do that. When my mom and dad passed, people brought food, soft drinks, ice, and anything else over. We didn’t have to cook until three days after the funeral, because people kept coming with food.
It is going to be a hard four or five days for you emotionally. After the funeral, do something nice for yourself, like get a pedicure or a facial. Something where your mind can just roam and relax.
I’m thinking of you.
Shalom aleichem
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I think the pandemic slowed down the practice a lot. And folks are not as close to each other like a community used to be. I’ve always been close to the family so I felt compelled to do something.
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Shirley, I am very sorry for your loss. Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better day.
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Shirley, there are still wonderful friends and neighbors who do those things for others in times of sorrow – and you are one of them! You are a caring friend. Again, so sorry for your loss.
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I’m so sorry for your loss, Shirley. Whatever you do will be the right thing. Just being available and letting Gwen’s family know you care is monumental.
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You have a big heart! Those are wonderful ways to support a friend, Shirley. I can only imagine how much of a relief and a comfort it would be for Gwen to see you and know you are there for her. Calling Victor sounds like a great first step because it’s possible they may already have that taken care of and may need your help in a different way.
Yvette M Calleiro 🙂
http://yvettemcalleiro.blogspot.com
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